Monday, January 24, 2011

1st Dates ...



So I wanted to do another post!! Yaaay! :D


This post is about 1st Dates! Woo, the emotions that run through your body are just insane. It changes from 'OMG' to excited/happy to 'what did I get myself into' to 'nervous' to 'Is the really seriously happening?'


I think it can be a nerve racking thing to think about really. You want to make a really good impression but of course that of your natural self. You want to look beautiful but you also want the beauty from within to shine through also.


There is so many things that may run through your head that you may want to prep yourself, so you feel calm. I would also say definitely tell a super close friend who understands you and won't judge you. They can calm you down and give you a heart to heart friend guidance through this process, which is a relieve honestly.


I think some pointers to help you with your nerves is to get some things ready the night before to make it a little easier to ease your emotions and nerves.


My list of key pointers

- make a list of questions you want to ask or know [if you can't think of any definitely check online for some questions to ask, so that way if you get stuck you have something to rely on or perhaps may even find questions you never thought of even asking! :D]

- make a checklist prep of what you think you need to do to get ready for this big moment
-> paint nails
-> hair mask

-> body scrub [why not? since if you're going to attempt to do a hair mask to your gorgeous locks may as well ;)]
-> deep cleanse for your face

-> brush & floss your beauties to perfection white ;)
-> get a enough sleep [so you don't look dreadfully tired or something else]
-> exercise to help you feel more relaxed [if you know in advance and have a week until it is coming around go hit the gym 3 times that week]


When it comes to your purse, you'll want to make sure you have everything you need in it

-> mints/gum

-> cell phone [but do not leave it on ringer or keep checking it because that's rude and shows you're not interested]

-> money [sometimes you think they're going to pay but they don't or you need to get home somehow, so you need some money for a taxi]

-> little kleenex packages that are purse size effective

-> any make-up you need for touch ups

-> whatever else you like to carry in your purse

[you definitely don't want to much stuff though that you are unable to find things and have to dump your whole purse out. If your purse is to that extent I think you need to take out the things you don't absolutely need and keep the things you really do to make it easier on yourself.]


For the final stages of things which concludes the outfit & hair & makeup


Outift

Chose something that's classy, sophiscated yet still sexy but doesn't show too much skin or cleavage along with keeping it simple but yet cute that shows you have self-respect for yourself. Knowing what to wear also depends on where you are going as well to because you don't want to overly dress and you don't want to underdress. So I would say causal/semi-formal. If you're not sure of what outfits to chose definitely ask for one of your closest friends opinions or family memebers.


Hair

not sure what to do with it .. right? There are so many opitons as in simple updo, down, wavy, curl, straight or the classic high bun like the runway. I also think it's depends on the accessories you want to wear. For example : your earring if you want them to be noticed they make it so your hair is up or if down that pieces are pinned back so you are able to notice the earrings if that's what you want to stand out. I definitely recommend checking out youtube for hairstyles! I have found so many unique and cute styles that I didn't know until I was browsing through videos.


Make-up

I think when it comes to make-up keep it very light, simple and nothing heavy or over dramatic. Keep it clean, classy and beautiful because I know there are a lot of guys who don't like when girls wear all that stuff on there face. They rather see a girl in her raw natural state then her face caked full of make-up.


I think this is it for this.. but I will definitely do a lovely follow up post to this to show you some ideas as to the overall process in getting ready to go out on a first date. :D So check back Sunday and I should have that up for you beautiful people! :D Until then I hope this was helpful!


signed,

BRIGHTLIGHTS

Sunday, January 23, 2011

The Lo-Down



The Lo-Down by Lauren Bosworth from Mtv the Hills & Laguna Beach. So I came across about her having a book after reading that Whitney Port is coming out with a book. I was shocked as in how come I didn't hear about this book?! So I googled it up and sure enough it was true! She also has her own website that she offers advice on different topics and such, which I started reading and was intrigued. Anyways, the book consists on the topic of relationships and I picked up some things that stuck out at me while reading.

1. I never knew this but I guess the first 3 times a guy should pay for you. I always hear first few couple of times, whatever that means but 3 sounds like a good number to me. :D

2. The book is broken up into 5 parts and each part has a little quiz for you to do on each topic that she is going over about in that part of the book. You'll get an idea of where you are as a person for that certain topic she is discussing about. Plus little excercises to do for yourself to feel good about yourself! =)

3. Another thing she goes over that I liked and found interesting was the "baddies" when it comes to guys and the 'good ones', so that you are able to differentiate between the two if you can't already. :D Don't worry she also goes over the type of girls too, so you can tell which one you relate too or perhaps recognize how some of your friends relate to what she says.

4. What would the book be without including the most brutal disappointing part that most people don't want to come to or deal with... the break up =( You're definitely not left hanging wondering, so what if this happens how can I get an idea of what to expect or do!? Well don't worry it's there for you! =)

5. I think my favorite section of the book was the Ten Intital Signs That He Likes You! Because really it's the most exciting thing when you read the 10 points & go Oh My Gosh that's makes sense or makes you excited or gives you a guide as to what you can expect in a way at least and not left wondering to figure it out for yourself.

6. Lo also gives you date ideas & recipes to make either together or surprise your boyfriend with

7. My other favorite part of the book was The Golden Rule section pages 55-56 which I'm only going to highlight a few things Lo mentions because it's just to much to write out here.
- "Females have an image in our heads of who we want to be, and males see us for who we already we."
- "You may stare in the mirror and hope for something different. He sees the real you looking into that reflective piece of glass, and he loves that girl."
- "So, understand that if they've asked you out, it's because they are already into you. Did you read that correctly? If they've asked you out, it's because they are already into you!"

8. Lastly, my very last point from the book that I have to mention that stuck out was the section title 'Love List' pages 88-89 : Is an exercise that makes you aware of how amazing you already are and to acknowledge that to draw the boyfriend of your dreams that much closer. =) "Because guys respect girls who respect themselves, who have their own ideas about what is cool, and who have their own lives."

It's your personal struggles with who you feel you should be that ruin your relationship because you highlight the things you don't like about yourself and you order salads when going out and he notices, trust me he does! The image you are trying to create the fun, cool, sexy person is doing the opposite for you. Instead you are allowing it to highlight your insecurities which really you don't want that part of you to shine out! =( "Who wants to date a girl who's trying to fake it, when the girl he really likes is sitting right in front of him, too afraid to be herself and in reality, get the guy."

Would I say that this book is like "He's Just Not That Into You"? Well not exactly it's more in the terms of flipping it around and being in control and take the notion as in 'he is not the right guy for YOU' not you must not be right for HIM. Because really you can't control whether or not a guy likes you when it boils down to it. Along with believing in yourself is a big concept to help you out. I think that concept goes for anything in life in general so to speak from my perspective.

This is pretty much it for my review on this book, oh and that it's a easy read you could finish it in less than a day but I didn't quite get through it that fast because I've been tired so I have been reading it over the course of 5 days. I think girls should check out this book as well if you already have "He's just not that into you" I think it's make things a lot more clearer coming from a girl's perspective and learn things you never really allowed yourself to see. I recommend you check it out either just for fun because you want something to read or if you need some advice/help. =)


signed,

BRIGHTLIGHTS

Saturday, January 1, 2011

Talk Booster - October 2010



So, I've been putting this off and off and off and was going to put it off again tonight but I was like no I have to do this! However, yaaay for a recent blog post! I am slowly managing to make more regular posts, hopefully that will work out. The main point of why I came on this specific portion of my blog to write is a new updated booster!! Geeehz! has it been forever that I managed to post a new one and that's not good... thumbs waaay down for that! As for what I am going to write about now .. here?!

Sometimes in life our main goal is a goal that isn't related to us if that even makes any sense?! I think a lot of us aim to please people, be people pleasers and neglect our choices and what we want in our life or what we want to aim for etc. Don't get me wrong it's nice to help people and give a little extra of your time or whatnot at times but not to the point that you are making yourself suffer. I believe the last time we checked in with ourselves it is our life and whatever it is we like, eat, want, desire, dream and believe that's us. It makes us who we are and it gives us a unique personality that no one is could compare to or be.. it's a way to make a connection to our identity.

I believe now is the time to make changes that benefit you and the life you want to live. It's not about everyone else.. it's about you! The choices you make are going to affect you and the life you have to lead in the future, not anybody else, so do whatever it is you love, desire and believe. However, when you do those things make sure it's something that means something and gives you a feel within your heart that makes you feel good. Something that gives you the opporunity to be happy, feel good, compassionate, goal-oriented and just naturally flows in connection with who you are and what you love in life. Let it enable you to connect to people or discover yourself. Let the inner beauty that hides within show people the unexpected they never thought. Let yourself be discovered and let yourself discover you and the hidden talents that you may not even be aware of sport a potential you never knew.

I beleive also a lot of the changes that we do or the things we discover of ourselves include that we make changes and work on things that inflict us to the point they really don't benefit us at all. I definitely believe a good step to start is finding more people to surround yourself with that support you and the decisions you make even if they may not agree they still support you because it's what you want. I think it's important to have people like that because people that are negative or bring you down are not going to do you any justice really. They are just going to drag you down along with them and seriously who wants that? I don't think you do because I sure know I don't. I can so that is something I don't want because I have been through that and it is not fun at all and it's draining to your mind, body and soul. It's like a drug counteracting with another that wasn't suppose to be taking because it can cause a reaction either mild, dangerous or even deadly.

In periods of life you need to be the antidote and take yourself out or be the remedey to the poision related within your life. I for one can say have more postive people and people who support you helps your life out a lot. I believe you attain the things you truly want because these type of people support what you want and don't judge you etc. The ones who judge you and criticize you, do nothing for you, offer nothing for you and more than likely make you feel down, gulity, shamed or make you believe things that are not true of yourselfs. For example, when someone tells you something or gives you a compliment you down grade it because you don't think it's true.. cooome on now! I am telling you accept the compliment, it was given to you for a reason! This person sees something that sometimes in life or certain periods in our life we don't understand why certain people see certain things about us. You may not see it or understand it but eventually you will once you let yourself be surrounded with the right positive people!

Life is about being yourself, achieving what you want of yourself and don't neglect what the insides of your blessed little heart shines with. There is no reason to hide the beauty that's wanting to seek out, let yourself flow for you and not anyone else... who cares what other thinks. There opinions shouldn't affect you but by all means them interfering with you is really affecting them only and getting them nowhere where as you are moving at a steadily speed ahead to beautiful places, you probably never expected.

The whole main point and focus is be you, don't be afraid, ashamed or hide who you are to please others or whatnot. You are seriously beautiful as the suns warm rays and the city lights that shine across the night sky. You have a personality as unique as the traffic flow of every hour of each day that will never be the same to someone elses. You are as beautiful as the rapid street lights red, amber and green because they relate to your constant growth, change, and flow which you allow yourself to adapt to the possiblities being thrown. Also, those lights show you that the beauty within them have endless chances to change every possible second of your life to be better than what you are allowing it to be now. Those lights should give you a metaphoric answer to relate into your life your choices of what you can do [stop] [yield] [go] - nothing more nothing less just the simple standing right in front of you waiting for your answers to change your life one step at a time.

signed,
BRIGHTLIGHTS `